by MikeThere was a great scene in the Krav Maga episode of Fight Quest where Jimmy gets floored by a Thai kick to the leg. He curses and growls as he tries to gather himself and get back on his feet, but the instructor says something to the effect of, "Nobody cares about your screaming. You need to get up and keep fighting."
Which is, in effect what the episode was about. And really, what much of your training is all about - keeping your cool when things aren't going your way.
What we can learn from Jimmy getting beat up
Obviously, Jimmy was frustrated - he'd taken a number of shots, he "knew" what to do, but his body just wasn't reacting the way he wanted it to. It's the hell of a place to be, but in the end, it's not about what you intend, it's what you accomplish.
Getting angry doesn't accomplish much. Unless you've got the ability to "Hulk out" (recall Chris Leben vs. Terry Martin), you're really only doing yourself a disservice. A couple months ago, Sifu Z delivered a great post-class pep talk. He said, "when you get frustrated, you're not mad at the other person or the situation, you're mad at yourself. You're frustrated because you're not as good as you thought you were."
"But he hit me in the nose."
Getting angry doesn't accomplish much. Unless you've got the ability to "Hulk out" (recall Chris Leben vs. Terry Martin), you're really only doing yourself a disservice. A couple months ago, Sifu Z delivered a great post-class pep talk. He said, "when you get frustrated, you're not mad at the other person or the situation, you're mad at yourself. You're frustrated because you're not as good as you thought you were."
Which is all well and good for when you analyze the night on your ride him, but what's one to do when you're in the middle of a ten-man kumite against a bunch of legitimate badasses who keep picking on your obvious handicap?
Exactly the opposite of what you want to be doing - instead of hoping someone stops the fight and everyone takes it easy on you because dammit you're trying, you need to do whatever you do to center yourself - take a step back and shake out your arms, do the hoppy-hoppy thing or touch your nose, then get right back into it.
Frustrating as it is to spar with the multi-time everything champ and get blasted with a jab that almost breaks your nose (even though he's going light) and then five more that you can't seem to stop even though you know they're coming, whining is the last thing you want to do.
Nobody likes a whiner
A couple weeks ago a bunch of us were getting ready to spar and waiting for the ring to open up. The boxing coach had a couple relatively new students in there sparring. One dude got popped and turned his back. The coach shouted, "don't turn your back."
Dude looked like he wanted to say something, but was too busy trying to work out of a corner. A couple seconds later, he got popped again and turned his back. The coach repeated his earlier command and this time got an answer.
"But he hit me in the nose."
Inadvertent as his reaction may have been, that guy's foreverafter going to be remembered as "the guy who was surprised that he got punched in the nose while boxing" by everyone watching.
What should he have said in that situation?
It's impossible for anyone but him to know what was going on in his mind or what it felt like to take those shots, but the correct answer is, "nothing." Or, if he felt like his health was in danger, he could have taken a knee, which is a suboptimal ending, but not something anyone would fault him for.
In the end though, it goes something like this
- Stress testing like Jimmy's mini-kumite, or me getting handled by a guy not even trying is an awesome opportunity to figure out how comfortable you are with how much you suck - except for the time you actually spend in the "middle" as it were - then it's the most embarrassing and frustrating few minutes of your life
- If you make it to the end, you've "won." If you can swallow your ego and quit in the middle, you've "won." Hell, you can still win if you spend your time complaining and later realize that you made a fool of yourself and work to correct it
- Quit yer bellyachin'
There is a flip side to this - namely the "I'm a warrior/es mi vida" mindset where it doesn't matter if you get beat up and crippled, the important thing is that you didn't quit. We'll examine this in a future article.
CC-licensed image from _KoAn_
CC-licensed image from _KoAn_







